The transgifted are special. Femininity is tremendously important to t grrls and most love the attention from a gentleman admirer. Notice the word "gentleman." When a t grrl feels that she is being treated with the dignity and respect befitting a lady she is in heaven. Make a grrl feel like a lady and you're well on your way to success! Some of the men I have spoken with tell me that nobody else can make them feel the way a t grrl can make them feel. I think it would be a safe guess that these guys know how to treat a t grrl like a lady. T grrls really are special and they can make you feel special too!
Identify what you're looking for. Do you want a long-term relationship, short-term relationship or a friendship? In other words, how serious are you? Do you want to meet a pre-op, post-op, transvestite, etc. Perhaps you're interested in a friendship first but you're open to the idea that it could lead to a long-term relationship. Understand that not all t grrls are the same. It is important that you have at least a basic understanding of the various types of t grrls. A common mistake is to assume that all t grrls are the same. This is a risky business and your misunderstanding could cause you to miss out on an opportunity to meet the grrl of your dreams. Some t grrls are heterosexual male crossdressers who simply aren't interested in men. Others are bi-sexual (your chances are improving here). Some t grrls are looking for men, others are looking for women. Some are seeking sex changes, and others are not. Some live full-time as females, others live part-time as females. Confused yet? You really shouldn't be. T grrls fall somewhere within a broad spectrum. Read or listen as t grrls describe themselves and you will gain insight into exactly where they are in their life and where they intend to go. A dialogue should be able to resolve any remaining questions you might have. Remember that you're looking for someone who will compliment what you're looking for and your job is to narrow the field to those who are looking for someone just like you.
What kind of T grrl do you want to meet? One of the most awkward topics is also one of the most important. You already know that not all t grrls are the same. The fact is that many are actively pursuing sex change surgery and are uncomfortable with their existing body. Others are quite comfortable. Simple communication will answer that question and you can decide what is important to you. I would recommend that you pose a question whenever it is appropriate, such as, how would you expect your partner to satisfy you? Notice that this question seeks to draw out a response and you may be surprised at what you can learn about a person by asking these types of questions. Obviously this wouldn't be the first question you would want to ask, but at the right time, a probing question can provide you with a wealth of information and insight.Use proper terminology. You will quickly learn that not all t grrls like being called shemales. While some of us don't take exception to the term, it is an error in terminology that can quickly send you packing. Indeed, many well intentioned admirers have struck out simply because of a misguided attempt to be friendly. Here is a good rule to follow; don't refer to anyone as a shemale, transsexual, transvestite, etc. until you have asked what she prefers to be called. A politely worded enquiry should prompt a t grrl to let you know exactly what term she considers most appropriate. If you must use a term, rather than a person's name, perhaps the term transgendered is the least offensive of all the terms. This is a generic term that fits most t grrls and is rarely offensive. Ask yourself, is my intention to offend people, or do I really want to meet people that will enrich my life? If you chose the latter, you will probably want to avoid these awful opening lines. Instead, try showing an interest in t grrls that you see in our Gallery, Pillow Talk, Message Board or even in person. Begin by introducing yourself briefly and asking permission to chat, e-mail or whatever. Try exchanging information, making small talk and getting to know the grrls. By investing a little time to get to know them, you will be able to sort through those of them who you genuinely have an interest in.
Search our Gallery. Personal ads are one of the best ways to meet quality people. Unlike people who are chatting in the chat rooms, or who post messages on bulletin boards, the people who place personals are interested in meeting others. In fact, they are so interested that they have taken the time to place a personal ad. We recommend that you first search the Girls Gallery to see if you find someone interesting. If so, politely respond to their ad to see if you can begin corresponding. If all goes well, perhaps this will result in a personal meeting and romance! If you don't see anyone that matches your criteria, try placing your own personal ad. A recent photo in your ad is an absolute must. When used properly, personal ads are one of the most effective and least expensive methods for meeting quality people. We frequently hear back from people who have met someone special in the personals and we'd love to hear your success story.
Visit the nightclubs. You may wish to find a local nightclub where you can meet t grrls in person. This offers the advantage that you will immediately know if there is an attraction. There is also a disadvantage that you must be aware of. While many of the t grrls go to transgender friendly nightclubs to socialise in a safe environment, there are others who are there for other purposes. Some of the t grrls you will meet at nightclubs are professionals and you will pay a price for their affection. This can be an effective way to meet t grrls, but please let common sense guide you and be careful!
Make a great first impression. Whether in person or in writing, making a good first impression is critical for success. Most of us understand the importance of being clean and presenting ourselves in a positive manner in person to person meetings. What many of us fail to realise is that first impressions are equally important in written communications. When you are e-mailing, chatting online or exchanging instant messages, you must rely on mere words to make a good first impression. You will want to carefully choose your words so you don't come off as offensive. Good grammar and spelling is important, so don't get sloppy just because you're communicating electronically. It is also important that you don't give the impression that you're impatient, insincere or desperate. Practice being a good communicator, which means expressing yourself well and being a good listener. Using good communication skills, you will be able to learn about the t grrls you meet and sort through them to find those that interest you the most. Take care and have fun!
Thanks to Maria, Webmistress at TS4Play.Com for this useful guide.
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